In his new book with John Kinyon, Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict, scheduled to be released on the International Day of Peace, Ike Lasater, co-founder of the Mediate Your Life training company with Kinyon and a co-founder of the Yoga Journal, provides tools for choosing peace (and avoiding stress and violence) in our daily conflicts. In fact, with the help of Lasater and Kinyon’s advice, you might not be involved in many “conflicts” at all.
The Humanist Magazine has great things to say about our book Choosing Peace in the January/February 2015 issue:
BY RICK HELLER • 22 DECEMBER 2014
Nonbelievers frequently debate the best way to communicate our ideas. Some think that a brash style is the most effective way to get attention. Others believe that a softer approach is the best way to change hearts and minds.
For those seeking to apply the softer approach, a useful technique is called “nonviolent communication.” Pioneered by the psychologist Marshall Rosenberg, NVC avoids rhetorical violence and seeks to de-escalate conflict. Ike Lasater and John Kinyon, associates of Rosenberg, have written Choosing Peace: New Ways to Communicate to Reduce Stress, Create Connection, and Resolve Conflict as a manual to help readers put these techniques into practice.
PechaKucha Night is an event that celebrates creativity and innovation. It was founded by designers in Tokyo as a way to share ideas succinctly and creatively, using 20 images shown for 20 seconds each. In this clip, Ike tells about his journey from being a trial attorney to creating an innovative training program used around the world to mediate conflicts (2012)
On a recent trip to Turkey, Ike collaborated with the nonprofit Aeyish, whose mission is to deepen the ability of political leaders to transform conflict into solution and connection. This video highlights the work they did with leaders of various Syrian groups (2016)
1. START WITH THE PRESENT MOMENT
Place the attention of you mind on the present moment by focusing on your breathing. When you practice conscious breathing, you have no other choice than to be in your present experience. This takes you out of analysis, thought and judgment.