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Ike Lasater

Mediator, Trainer, Coach

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    • Collaborating in the Workplace: A Guide to Building Better Teams
      • White Paper: What Makes An Effective Team? Learning the Necessary Skills for Successful Collaboration
    • Words That Work in Business, 2nd Ed.
    • When Your Mind Sabotages Your Dreams
    • From Conflict to Connection
    • Choosing Peace
    • What We Say Matters
    • Mediate Your Life Training Manual
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      • Existential
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      • Violence and Nonviolence / The Way of Heart
      • Miscellaneous
    • Poetry

About My Work

Hate never conquered hate, only love conquers hate
-Buddha

We all face conflict of some kind on a daily basis- be it inside ourselves, or with loved ones, colleagues and strangers. Very often this conflict creates feelings of anger, hatred and tension, which has both harmful mental and physical effects. If we are going to make the transition from hate to love, it’s not just a question of deciding to do so. The work that is required to attain the love Buddha describes begins with connection with and empathy for ourselves.

aboutmywork

Focus First on Connection

My work evolved from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication framework created by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg that is based on the notion that all humans share the same, basic needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs. My work also draws from dispute resolution, meditation and mindfulness, spiritual and wisdom traditions, contemporary psychology and brain science. No matter the format or context of what I do, I focus first on connection.

At the core is the premise that by really listening to, understanding, and thus connecting with the other person’s needs, you are more likely to be heard yourself, and more likely to create connection, and out of that connection, create collaboration that results in mutually satisfying outcomes.

Learn the Skills of Connection

Whether I am leading a workshop or working with individuals, I teach innovative processes to increase your capacity for empathy so that when triggered, you can overcome the body’s natural “fight-flight-freeze” reaction to difficult conversations. You will practice and fine-tune your verbal skills so that you can respond to your colleagues and family with more confidence in challenging and stressful circumstances, and begin to learn to approach conflict as an opportunity for connection.

You will also learn tools of self-care that will support your resilience as you learn to navigate conflict and find new ease in your life and relationships.

As you learn these skills of connection, you will shift out of hateful and blaming thoughts about others, thus increasing your capacity to get closer to that ideal the Buddha described.

I have offered trainings in 20 countries in North and South America, Europe, Africa, Australia and Asia, including post 9-11 Pakistan and have seen the power of this approach to bridge divides, where none seemed possible.

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Services

Trainings:
Based on Ike’s newest work, Collaborating in the Workplace: A Guide for Building Better Teams,these trainings offer practical, step-by-step exercises that you can use to develop crucial skills to help you and your teammates connect with each other in ways that foster superior collaboration.
During this time of COVID-19, Ike’s trainings will be held online. To learn more about his online workplace offerings and others, offerings, visit ikelasater.training.

Private Mediation:
Facilitating conversations and connection among people in conflict

Conflict Coaching: One-on-one coaching to support you to connect with your own needs in any difficult situation and decide how you want to proceed.

Business Consultation:
Customized workplace training on such topics as

  • Giving and receiving evaluations
  • How to be a leader on collaborative teams, whether you have the title of leader or not
  • Self-Regulation. We call this self-care in stressful situations.
  • How to receive and deliver “Nos”
  • Resilience
  • How to write more effective emails

Please check out out the Events page to see what trainings I have planned, or reach out to me if you would like to talk about a custom training for your business, or coaching session for yourself.

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